A lot of men avoid talking because they do not want a big emotional conversation. Fair. You do not need a big talk. You need one kind sentence that keeps connection.
The mini script
- I care about you and I want us to feel close
- I had a tough moment and I do not want to disappear into shame
- Can we slow down and keep it relaxed for a bit
- I want to stay connected with you
If your partner responds with worry
You can add, I am going to work on it, and if it keeps happening I will talk to a clinician. That is enough.
If you want a clinician conversation
